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{My Black is Beautiful} No Apologies or Explanations Shall Be Given

July 1, 2014
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I hear my own drummer, my body is often in a room while my mind is on the other side of town, my picnics are often short a sandwich.

This is me, Mimi. Take it or leave it is what it shall be.

My mind is always in perpetual motion. While someone is talking to me my mind may be on what’s for dinner or my grocery list. I have found myself struggling with simple tasks trying to reason and go against my nature in completing things to make them acceptable to others. I’ve always been aware that I have my own way of doing things that perplexes others, and in failed gestures to make others more comfortable with MY actions I adjusted them.

Those days are gone. That ship has sailed, it has approached the horizon and is no longer visible. Squint if you must, it’s not there.

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It’s Party Time…Oh, It’s Party Time

February 4, 2014

….or not.

In a few short weeks I will be turning 35. Oh, 35 you came too soon. I’m like 5 whole years to 40.

I’m normally not a party girl, but I do recognize certain milestones require special recognition and 35 is one of those years.

I’ve been tossing a few scenarios around in my head regarding whether or not I want to get down with a shin dig. I’ve been given a budget and I even have a party planner. However, the cheapster in me can’t see paying that type of money for people to come and celebrate MY birthday. Keep in mind I didn’t have a wedding so this would be a first for me in the arena of shelling out big bucks for people to eat and drink in celebration of a life milestone.

So I have to make my mind up soon and very soon because invites will need to go out in the next week. I’ve taken to Pinterest. In the event I do partake in the party life here are a few inspiration photos:

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upside down balloons

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What do you think? Should I stop being so cheap and just have a party or put the money in my pocket and hit the spa and the mall?!!

 

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Learn to Say H*ll NO and Other Habits to Adopt in 2014

January 2, 2014

I’m not much of a resolution girl but I have been in deep thought about new habits to adopt in 2014 to make my life easier, encourage personal growth and see the ideas in my head go from thought to manifestation.

I am by no means an expert, but as I created my list for the new year I thought I might share them with you!

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Just Say NO:  Assuming you aren’t into recreational drug use this “Just Say No” has not a thing to do with Reagan’s campaign but everything to do with managing YOUR time and maintaining YOUR sanity.

Saying no shouldn’t be as hard as it is, but some of us feel the need to be helpful when in reality when we refuse to say NO we are often times making life harder for ourselves. In the new year I’ve vowed to never answer someone right away if I can help it. I have decided to respond by saying I need to check my calendar to allow myself time to decide if taking on said task will actually be feasible for me to accomplish without too much disruption to my routine. I give you permission to add H*ll no as necessary so that said party knows its real and to come correct before asking you to do things they could surely do themselves.

Write it Down: You would think this one is self explanatory and obvious, however as a person who has left the bread and milk in the grocery store when they were the main items I went for….I think pencil and paper need to be my friend in the new year.

Keeping track of children’s schedules, room mom duties and bills my mind will play tricks on me. I’ve found lately that if I make lists of the things I need to do, things I need to buy and places I need to be my mind doesn’t seem as cluttered and I don’t feel AS flustered.  I’ve bribed myself into this new habit my purchasing a plethora of planners, journals, pencils and pens. Make these necessary evils pretty and you are more likely to make proper use of them.

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Plan Tasks and Allocate Time: Again, in the past my important tasks were jumbled in my head along with where I might find an AKA sweatshirt and if not careful the latter would come before the necessary and I would be left at the end of the day SMH because the important tasks weren’t accomplished but I had my sweatshirt though. This is a true story.

I am now writing down my tasks daily and prioritizing them by importance and allocating a time frame in which each needs to be completed. All business related matters are handled first and everything else comes second. If I haven’t completed the task in the allotted time I move on to the next task and come back around to it after all important tasks have been touched. Of course this is up for revision depending on how important the task is. I am finding this to be beneficial in making sure I get everything done daily.

Accountability Partners: Birds of a feather flock together anyone? There is nothing worse than starting in the same place as someone and they make moves and you are left standing where you started. Use a little friendly competition and let accountability to a like minded person push you forward in 2014.

The key is finding that person that will politely READ you if you haven’t accomplished that goal and reported back within the specified time. I have found some accountability partners where I will be embarrassed and shamed if I didn’t at least have some sort of update to give them on my goal progress. Sometimes being accountable to ourselves isn’t enough. We need deadlines and sometimes we need positive people to help us enforce them.

Start It. Finish It: In the past I have been the master of starting a million things and finishing none of them. Call me Jemimah of all trades, master of none. I’m tired of not seeing things through to completion when I know I have the ability to finish them.

The key to this I believe is being realistic with oneself before starting on a journey. Anything is possible but the real question is do you have the passion to see it through. Answering those hard questions before starting may help with making sure completion becomes the ultimate goal. I’ve decided to sit down and take the time as well as consult with my accountability partners before setting off on anything new. Sometimes perspective will let us know the likelihood of us finishing something before we even start.

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Y’all know I’m no kind of expert on life but I’ve made enough mistakes and as I knock on 35 I have come to the conclusion that processes are not here to hurt us but to make us better. I’ll roll with it.

Have you had an epiphany on new habits to adopt that may help some of us? I implore you to share! #SharingIsCaring

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Stories

November 9, 2013
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Lately I’ve been finding myself riding in the car without the radio playing. I’ll be far entrenched in my thoughts before I realize that I am riding in silence and at that point I choose to let my thoughts supercede the noise of the radio.

As I was riding alone today in silence it hit me how extremely blessed I am. While my life isn’t perfect, I have finally reached a point in my life where I want for nothing and that statement has absolutely nothing to do with material things. I briefly flashed back to very hard times in my life when I was pretty sure that God had left me dangling but I held on to my faith because that was my only connection to something good when everything around me seemed to be going wrong.

I’ve told some of my story here,  you think you know but you have NO idea. If God can bring me from a place of sorrow and darkness into a place of abundance and light He can do the same for you.

I’m in my feelings this evening. Can’t you tell! Keep trusting. He is faithful….If anybody knows, I know. Just make sure you are giving Him something to work with!

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